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Has Anyone Dealt With Depression With Having Lupus And Did It Affect Your Personal Relationships (family, Friends, Significant Other)

Has Anyone Dealt With Depression With Having Lupus And Did It Affect Your Personal Relationships (family, Friends, Significant Other)

I have been dealing with what I have been told is clinical depression and it is really taking a toll not only on myself but those around me. Flare ups are already stressful for them but now I am dealing with this and not everyone knows what I'm feeling. I have no clue how to cope or deal with it or even help those I love and care about do the same. Any advice or suggestions?

A MyLupusTeam Member said:

I take an antidepressant in the mornings. I don't feel depressed anymore because I also went to therapy. It does work and I believe is very important. Don't self medicate, you have to see a dr and find the right brand for you. Good luck!

posted over 4 years ago
A MyLupusTeam Member said:

Yes, yes, yes. The Lupus itself can cause depression and anxiety by affecting the nervous system, plus dealing with a chronic disease can also cause depression and anxiety. I mention anxiety because it often accompanies depression.

There are several things you can do to minimize both. First, talk to your doctor about an antidepressant, if you're not already taking one. Antidepressants treat depression and anxiety, plus can help lessen chronic pain, so the medicine helps in multiple ways for people with Lupus. If you're already on an antidepressant, but still suffering with significant depression, talk to your doctor. You may need to try a different medicine, or may need to take 2 antidepressants together. Please don't think of taking antidepressants as weakness. Depression is a chemical imbalance and can require medication in the same way diabetics can require insulin. Don't let anyone make you feel embarrassed or ashamed for being depressed. Anyone who still sees depression as a weakness or something shameful is just ignorant and needs to educate themselves.

Next, give yourself a break. Depression is incredibly common with Lupus. Explain this to your family. Tell them that you are doing everything you can to treat the depression, but it may never go away completely or permanently. Research depression on legitimate medical websites, including the Lupus Foundation website, so you can better understand this condition, and encourage your friends and family to do the same. Your loved ones should also research Lupus, so they can better support you.

Consider attending Lupus support meetings, if available in your area, or chat online with people with Lupus. Same goes for depression support. It's amazing how much relief can be found in talking to others like you. Counseling can be extremely helpful in learning coping techniques and learning how to deal with loved ones.

Exercise, though it may be the last thing you feel like doing, can mitigate depression. Try not to isolate yourself. Pamper yourself when you can.

posted over 4 years ago
A MyLupusTeam Member said:

I suffer with depression for years n was on Citalpram, but when I was diagnosed I found they seem to stop working so my doctor changed mine to vensir xgl which were more compatible with the other medications I was taking for my lupus, over the last month my dose was increased as been feeling depressed my old horrible thought came back,! So see your GP n explain how you feel as a simple change of tablets maybe all you need xx

posted over 4 years ago
A MyLupusTeam Member said:

My heart breaks for you. I don't know what antidepressant you are on but it is not working. There are so many types on the market but you need to let your Dr. know. Probably most of us have depression to some degree. How could you not. Constant pain plays on your mind terribly.

posted over 4 years ago
A MyLupusTeam Member said:

I'm also taking anti-depressants. It helps but it doesn't work without your will to change. My psycologist also gave me several advice on how to fight depression, having a daily exposure to natural light, do outside activities, there's also certain foods that help, you can find it quickly in an online search. He says it is easier to change the outside than the inside. What helped me the most was exercising, I joined a gym and now I exercise 3-4 times a week. Dancing is also a good activity.
I didn't find much support in my friends and family. My mom always listens but she feels so bad for me, I quit talking about it. People don't want to be surrounded by sadness.
When you feel better try to do activities. A workshop, a course, a book club, a knitting group...Try to do all the things that once made you happy.
My cat also helps, there are nights I can only sleep by holding her. I wish there was someone next to me in my bed.
For insomnia @A MyLupusTeam Member I also use an app called calm that has this bed time stories you can listen to help you sleep.
Feel better soon. You can always count on us.

posted over 4 years ago
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