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Telling White Lies

Updated on June 26, 2019

Have you ever told a white lie to be kind, to protect the feelings of others, or maybe to simply avoid stigma? You're not alone.

For some living with a chronic condition, telling a white lie can be a way to save one's strength. Sometimes it's easier not to share your unvarnished truth, especially when it doesn't hurt anyone else.

Have you ever found yourself saying any of the following?

1. "No, no. I can do it myself."
2. "I'm not scared/nervous/anxious/unsure."
3. "I'm fine. Really."
4. "Don't worry. I'm used to this."
5. "No, I'm not in much pain."

Here are some conversations from the community about this topic:

“My body hurts. I need a timeout. I’m thinking about calling into work tomorrow and maybe going to get a pedicure or lay in bed and be lazy with my hubby.”

“Initially I was disappointed that I couldn’t keep up with my friends, but now have a new goal for next Saturday. I shall start at my own pace and try to go for 30 minutes before I have to rest.”

“Yes being fatigued is very normal with lupus, I have just learned to not put pressure on myself to get stuff done.”

Why do you choose a white lie over sharing your true feelings?
What do you wish you could say instead?

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