I've had that problem as well but have you tried from the back? I don't kn how to write this with out u know! Going into detail about it lol but I find all other ways are very uncomfortable or have him hold your leg for dont let lupus stop your life you take control! And try eating green food they help with flair up as well and also have planned days and talk to him about what's going on and if he a real man he should understand and if you're sick and not feeling well sex should be the last thing on his brain it should be your health!

There's a, supplement called.... MACA. You can get it in pill form or in a powder form to mix in a smoothie... They sell it online. Or at the vitamin shop.. Or any health food store...

I will be 53 years old next month and am having great sex with my husband, sometimes it's like when we were first dating 27 years ago. I was diagnose with Lupus in my late 30's. Was a stay at home mom at the time, so when I started getting sick the Dr's would say that I was depressed and give me a pill. They had me thinking that is what it really was, but finally after going to the Doctors about once a week for about two years and getting worse rather than better, I got a rash on my face shaped like a butterfly and had the proper diag. They really had no test back then. Anyways what I was getting to and somehow got off track is that, there will be times that sex is the last thing you want to even think of. First of all most of the time you dont feel sexy. Taking the meds make you gain weight and my you feel not sure if your going to get sick or not. But then you get a break and feel great!!! That's when you make up for the dry period. A good man will understand, he may not like it, but understands. We have gone sometime a couple of years without having sex. It's important to talk to one another. Hope this help, didnt mean to go on like I did.

I was starting to think I had a problem. Apparently I'm not alone. This has really taken a damper on my relationship with my husband. I feel bad because I have zero interest. Honestly this has been something I've been meaning to speak to my doctor about.

I thought she was gonna say kneeling position to beg him to stop asking lol hehehehe .i have the same issue