Lupus can definitely put strain on a marriage or long-term relationship, but it doesn't automatically mean couples will split up. It really depends on the foundation of the relationship and how both partners handle the challenges together.
Some MyLupusTeam members have shared that lupus revealed existing weaknesses in their Show Full Answer
Lupus can definitely put strain on a marriage or long-term relationship, but it doesn't automatically mean couples will split up. It really depends on the foundation of the relationship and how both partners handle the challenges together.
Some MyLupusTeam members have shared that lupus revealed existing weaknesses in their relationships, and for some, it did lead to a breakup. One MyLupusTeam member shared that their ex-husband said he didn't want to be with a sick person — but they later found a supportive partner who stuck by them through difficult flares for over 12 years. The good news is that strong relationships can absolutely survive and even grow through the experience. Some key things that help include:
- Open, honest communication about symptoms, needs, and feelings
- Inviting your partner to doctor's appointments so they better understand lupus
- Using "I statements" when discussing how lupus affects intimacy or daily life
- Seeking couples counseling if lupus is creating ongoing tension
A partner who truly cares will make the effort to learn about lupus and support you through it. As one MyLupusTeam member wisely put it — clear communication helps you build a plan together, whether that's with a willing partner or moving on from an unwilling one.
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Relationships and Lupus
June 8
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