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Lansing, MI

Has anyone's desire for sex gone away? It use to be every now and then. But now it seems to be gone altogether. Its very frustrating because I'm married and my husband doesn't understand me...

February 29, 2016
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A MyLupusTeam Member

Same here No sex for me . my wife and i keep trying but i'm not in the mood ! so my wife just tells me to hold her while we sleep ! love my wife i'm glad she understand !

February 29, 2016
A MyLupusTeam Member

No sex drive what-so-ever. My husband could be a big baby about it and it made me crazy... Until his hips starting going bad. Now, it's painful for him, so its NOW OK for it not to happen at all. Funny how that works... huh?

March 18, 2016
A MyLupusTeam Member

You are not alone. I don't have the desire most of the time either, there are some moments that I do but it will only last like 3 days then after that it's over and I don't want it no more for a while. My husband is really not that understanding. Sometimes he is but most of the time he's not even though he tries to say he is I know he's not, but I have learned not to let it bother me anymore cuz if I do I will send myself in a flair and I am to the point where if I me avoiding a flair makes someone else upset then to bad for them cuz they don't feel what I feel, they don't go through what I will go through. ... I hope things will get better for u. Take care

March 1, 2016
A MyLupusTeam Member

Mine add gone until I had another man whisper in my ear the right things, and oh baby it was turned back on!!!!!!!

June 8, 2016
A MyLupusTeam Member

The pain med is a deterrent I found if I can go without a does or two I feel a erge I also try and plan it may take all week the foreplay as they call it but talking watching a move or music together having a nice meal, what ever is your forta. Because we just can't do it all in one session. Have you sat down and really spoke with your husband about the pain be truthful with him let him understand you so you two can work your love making in

March 23, 2016

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