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What you're going through sounds incredibly overwhelming, and it makes complete sense that intimacy feels so different and frightening right now. Your feelings are completely valid — your body has been through so much, and it's still healing.

Lupus and fibromyalgia together can already make sex painful due to:

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What you're going through sounds incredibly overwhelming, and it makes complete sense that intimacy feels so different and frightening right now. Your feelings are completely valid — your body has been through so much, and it's still healing.

Lupus and fibromyalgia together can already make sex painful due to:

- Joint and muscle pain
- Fatigue
- Nerve sensitivity
- Vaginal dryness from medications or hormonal changes

Adding a colostomy on top of that is a major physical and emotional adjustment that takes real time to navigate. The fear about your pouch is something many ostomates experience — it's extremely common and nothing to be ashamed of. There are actually practical strategies that can help, like emptying your pouch completely before intimacy, using pouch covers or wraps designed specifically for this, and trying positions that put less pressure on the pouch.

Talking openly with your colorectal surgeon or a wound/ostomy nurse about intimacy concerns is really important — they hear this regularly and can offer personalized guidance.

Most importantly, please speak with your care team about the pain during sex. Pain should never just be accepted as the new normal. You deserve comfort and connection. 💛

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