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Are You Afraid to Say No?

Posted on May 01, 2019

Yes. No. I mean – maybe? Well, okay. Have you ever wanted to be able to say "no" without feeling guilty? Without feeling you're letting someone down? Many of us struggle with disappointing anyone with a 'no.' At the same time, those two letters, n-o, can be freeing.

If you’re managing a chronic condition, the ability to say no is a powerful skill that can ultimately give you the gifts of time and energy to dedicate to your health. By trading off doing something you truly don’t have the time to do, you can give yourself more breathing room to stay on top of appointments, treatments, and general self-care. It becomes easier to say “no” with practice.

There are a variety of ways to say no and set boundaries with friends and family with no hard feelings. How do you say “no” to others? Are you direct? Do you provide rain checks?

Here are some conversations about this topic from the community:

How did you guys come to accept that every day can be different? And that you can be having a good day and then it changes?"

“Lesson I have learned: I am just done pushing myself beyond what I should.”

“It's important to have support when dealing with illness, and also very important to remember your health is first.”

“How do you tell family and friends who don't understand ‘I can't’, or ‘I have to go?’” 

When has saying no been a form of self-care for you?
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Posted on May 01, 2019
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