A waiting person is a patient person." - Henri J.M. Nouwen

Argh! Have you ever felt impatient at a red light, or irritated at the end of a long line for your prescription at the pharmacy? You're not alone.

Patience can feel scarce when you don't have control over a situation. It can feel like lupus interrupted your life and brought a slew of frustrations at the worst moments. Finding a tiny bit of control can bring us patience later.

Control might look like self-care: a walk around the block, getting up early for 15 minutes of alone time, spending time each week encouraging others who have lupus or starting a gratitude journal. Don't let anyone (including yourself!) make you feel guilty for taking care of yourself.

Here are recent conversations from MyLupusTeam:

• "I am healing slowly. My hair was falling out for weeks and my head hurts every day. I know it will take time to return to 'normal.' I’m learning patience daily. I’m thankful for every little improvement."
• "I have made myself think positively, to think before I react and now lately I haven't been "reacting" negatively! A big plus for me and getting positive results! Just take a deep breath, make sure you give yourself enough space, take a walk, listen to music or do whatever it is that helps relaxes you."
• "I am getting better slowly but surely. I have to remember to have patience. My mind wants to go faster than my body."

Have you found ways to take back control and practice patience? What do you do to be more open to self-care? Share your insights in the comments below or directly on MyLupusTeam.com.